As a mom, sometimes we put our needs to the side while we take care of our families.
I think this is even more apparent as homesteaders because we have more chores and labor intensive activities than the “modern woman”.
This summer, I have decided to change that. This summer, I am going to make more of an effort to take care of me.
Now, some of you are thinking right now, “That sounds really selfish or that’s a waste of time.”
And that’s fine. I have thought that for years too. My children and husband all have more clothes, shoes and toys than I do. I’m pretty minimalist and I like it that way.
But now that my kids are teenagers and will be leaving home in a couple of years, I decided I needed to start finding me again. My style, my hobbies, my self worth that doesn’t involve them.
I have been in mom mode for so long that my life without them is going to be hard, confusing and down right boring.
So this summer, I am going to start finding me again.
That doesn’t mean I am going to ignore my family and go on vacation by myself.
That doesn’t mean I am going to break the bank buying a new wardrobe or a new car.
It just means I am going to be a little more intentional in my actions and start taking care of me a little more. That’s it.
The little things I’m going to discuss here are just that: little things. If I didn’t write this post, most people probably wouldn’t even notice them. But I think they will make a big difference in my confidence, self-esteem and post-mom life.
10 Ways I’m Taking Care of Me This Summer:
- Making the bed everyday. I love getting in a made bed at night, but I don’t always take the time to make it in the morning. This is a small thing I can do at the beginning of each day to remind me of the rest of the things on the list.
- Getting dressed everyday, all day. I have a big problem with this one. Some days, I stay in pajamas all day. I garden in pajamas, work on the computer in pajamas, etc. This summer I am committing to getting dressed everyday (even if it is just yoga pants or jeans) and leave the pjs for bed time.
- Looking my best when I leave the house. Besides getting dressed, I want to try to actually look at myself in the mirror before I leave the house. Brush my teeth, my hair, put on makeup (not everyday but more often), wear good shoes, etc. Make it look like I thought about what I was doing before I just left the house to run errands.
- Painting my fingernails and toenails every week. When my nails are painted, I feel better about myself. I know that sounds stupid, but it is true. I won’t be going to the nail salon (too many chemicals) but I can do them myself and they can last for a week. I might even try some new colors this summer!
- Wearing my contacts daily (so I can wear sunglasses). I have clunky glasses that I usually wear (because they are quick and easy) but this summer I want to wear sunglasses. So I bought some new contacts and I am committing to wearing them daily, especially when I am outside.
- Putting on sunscreen. I am the queen of putting sunscreen on everyone but myself! I sat all day at baseball games a couple of Saturdays ago and got so burned I am still peeling. Big no, no!
- Eating a “diet” that makes me feel good. For me this is the keto diet. I love junk food, but it makes me feel terrible. I feel guilty for eating it, guilty for spending the money and bloated and yucky from the actual food. When I am eating keto I feel full, light, clear headed and comfortable (not bloated or gassy!) So even though it is a struggle, I am all in on keto this summer to take care of me and my body!
- Buying a new pair of flip flops. I wear flip flops daily during the summer, and they can wear out fast. So I am going to buy myself a nice, thick pair of flip flops with fabric (no plastic) between the toes. This will show off my pedicure and make me feel good.
- Spending more time outside. One of my favorite things about summer is spending time in the garden. This year I want to not only have a large garden, but spend time just sitting and enjoying it when the work is done. I also want to spend time with my family hiking and camping this summer.
- Wearing the swimsuit. This has been a HUGE hangup for me since I have had kids. I will use any excuse not to wear the swimsuit. I sit on the sidelines instead of getting in the action because I hate being in a swimsuit. So I am going to buy a new suit that I really love (even if I have to spend a little more on it) and actually wear it. Who cares, right? No one else cares except me and I am missing out because I don’t look 17 anymore. Well, guess what. I’m not 17 and I never will be again. So I need to enjoy the body and life I have and get over it!
What do you think? Have I gone crazy?
I will let you know at the end of the summer how these things went. What worked and what didn’t. What made me feel great and what didn’t make much difference.
I still have a family and animals to raise, a home to take care of and a life to live. I won’t be spending all my time looking in the mirror or shopping. That just isn’t my style.
But getting to know me again is something I need to do. Do you need it to? Tell me I’m not the only one!
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